I think the ultimate role model for African American Men is Keith Sweat. IT HAS TO BE, because they are some begging a** brothers. Some would say SIMPS. I was scrolling through my timeline on Facebook and noticed there was a post about African Americans practicing polygamy (which they probably really meant polygyny), as a way to save their communities from the despair they are going through with broken homes.
Every time I see these posts, I see droves and droves of Black Men trying to convince Black Women to agree to practicing polygyny, and almost all the time droves and droves of black women come in and say the same thing over and over. Which is simply a big fat emphatic “HELL NO”! I sit back and laugh, because it’s mainly Afro-Centric Hotep Brothers dreaming of a Black Utopia participating in these begging and pleading sessions.
Brothers just cannot accept that Black African American women aren’t interested for the most part. They say the run of the mill typical stuff such as,”brothers can’t take care of and or satisfy one black woman, so how in the hell are they going to handle more than one”. Better yet, how about the proverbial, “if black men can have polygyny, then why not polyandry?”
What’s funny is both parties already practice polyandry and polygyny. Brothers have more than one baby mother, and black women have more than one baby daddy. The other funny thing is they pretend to act as if you have to be some special type of man to practice polygyny. As if you have to reach some Zen-like quality state of being and enlightenment to handle more than one “Sista”.
Even the so called conscious black women reject polygyny. Now check this out. Most of the people imported to be slaves in America came from West Africa, and the southern region where Angola is located. Most of the people who identify as Black or African Americans are actually indigenous to America. Both of these populations mixed and both practiced polygyny.
Show me a time in history where our people didn’t practice polygyny. Polygyny is natural to us……… always has been and always will be. Monogamy is what is not natural to us, or should I say forced monogamy. The so called conscious women know the story of our oppression and subjugation well. So how is it that they are so against polygyny? It’s because it takes away the power they have gained over black men through partnering with the oppressors and the state.
During Antebellum slavery, the slave masters allowed polygyny to exist amongst the slaves until they saw how fast it allowed them to multiply, so they put an end to it. Polygyny is not about what most be people think it is. At its basic roots, it’s about being able to increase the chances of having male children, so there will be more workers and doers to provide and defend the tribe against outside attacks, because women are the default sex.
The reality is that there are women all around the world who would love to be in a brother’s Harem, so why waste your time trying to convince women who are not interested? Since sex is commerce, it is plausible to secure it like any other business transaction. If you have a product or service, you don’t waste your time marketing to people who are not interested in your product or service,! That would be business suicide.
Humans are imperfect beings, so nothing we do will be perfect, but black women always make it seem as if you have to be perfect in order to practice polygyny; yet and still, they will share a man and brag about being a “side chick”. Then there is the issue of saying a man must provide for all of his wives. That is impossible to do and unrealistic, especially in this day and time. Some of these very same women are supporting men just to keep some “D” around. Men are not by default supposed to provide protection and provision.
A Man is supposed to provide guidance, structure, and leadership first! Provision and protection is a by product of that. If you have no money but you have plenty of ideas and know how, find some women with money, organize them to be productive, then there are provisions for everyone. This whole concept of going out and working like a slave to support women is foolishness and non sense. I can keep going but the fact is brothers need to let them go, and find a market that supports what you want.